This week marked 25 weeks pregnant! Woohoo! It’s going so quickly and so slow at the same time. I cannot wait to meet this little baby boy that’s growing on the inside of me. See what he’s like, his personality as he grows, who he looks most like, and so many more things make me anxious to meet him!
In the last nearly six months of being pregnant I have compiled a list of things to avoid while pregnant. This list is not a doctor advised list, but more of a if you want a happy pregnancy list:
- Don’t be too worried, it won’t help anything. Just over a year ago I had an early miscarriage. Having that happen, then trying for a good number of months to get pregnant again, then being pregnant now has been a whirlwind of up and down emotions. In the early stages of this pregnancy I was worried that if I even let myself be excited about the pregnancy and growing baby that I would only be disappointed and again lose this baby to a miscarriage. In most cases when a baby is lost in pregnancy it has nothing to do with anything that the mother could have done differently. It’s not your fault if something happens. Worrying adds nothing to life except fear.
- EVERYONE will give their opinions about what you are doing, do what feels right. I will add to this, “as long as it is within your doctors orders”. In the last few months I have heard so many “don’t” and “dos” about pregnancy, often making me feel like I’m doing something wrong. I’ve had to come to the place where I let some of those voices become background noise and politely nod. Everything from being told I can’t drink soda at all to I must wear dresses all the time because jeans (even maternity ones) are too tight on my stomach and will hurt the baby to some people telling me to sit down all the time and not strain myself to the extreme other side telling that if I don’t work out now I won’t be strong enough to deliver the baby. The phrase that come to mind is “you do you”.
- Avoid people that make you feel bad. I know this is a bit extreme. But on the other hand, not at all. Being pregnant comes with so many hormones, emotions and up and down feeling already that having people around who are constantly making you feel unnecessarily bad are not essential to your life at this point in time. Try to surround yourself with people who will encourage and uplift you. You need it!
Pregnancy is an awesome thing! Your body is making a real human! Seriously…think about it, it’s insane. It’s a miracle. Now onto a short list of the perks of pregnancy:
- It’s OK to say you’re tired and stay home rather than feeling obligated to say yes to everything. This has been a learning experience for me. My husband continually encourages me in this and tries to accommodate (and on occasion use it as his own excuse to have an extra hour to relax…”my wife is pregnant and really tired, we’re going to stay home tonight.”). But seriously…you are growing a human, it takes a lot out of your body, don’t be afraid to allow yourself to rest.
- You can feel your baby move inside of you. It’s insane! There is something moving inside and it’s not just gas. It’s a crazy experience to feel a real living thing moving around inside…this I just can’t get over. Ask me again when I’m eight months and I’m sure I’ll have a different answer for you…but as for now I don’t get tired of it.
Ok….my list is a bit short. There are more perks to be added and many more side effects (gaining weight by the landslides, having literally nothing to wear, being careful with what you can and cannot eat, way too much gas, feeling fat all there time, etc).
What’s on your list of perks or any other thoughts about pregnant? I’d love to hear them!